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27 September 2009


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Barbara Saunders

"Now, when I first cut out starchy and sugary foods, I realized that I didn't really have a problem with emotional eating."

Same here! I didn't even cut out the sugary foods. I added protein, leaving less room for carbs, and voila! - same emotions, no food cravings.

Sue Cosby

There is no plan for this. Be good to yourself. It will come together in time. I'm using a group support site. You're welcome to join me there or share the food challenges with me anytime. xoxo


I agree with Sue.. there is no plan and there are no rules. Chocolate, for example, is a drug, a placebo and genuine comfort. Sometimes cold turkey is all that works... Or it may be that eating without control is what works for you (temporarily). It sounds like you're afraid that you'l gain back all of that 187 pounds you lost. But 4/7//10/15 pounds is not 187. You need some time just to "be" and to be with your feelings for awhile. Try not to be so hard on yourself. When the time is right, the pieces of your next life will start coming together.


The problem with food is that you can't avoid it. You have to eat to live. Sometimes the problem is we don't focus on what we are doing and find we have swallowed something we didn't need or want. You might want to change things up completely. You might try taking a yoga or meditation class. It will help with the stress, calm your mind and give you something to focus on that is soothing.


You have been through A LOT and it ain't over yet. If the food thing is really bothering you, maybe you can order meals from a personal chef? Here in Philly, you can get personal chefs that will cook up a week's worth of any type of special diet you can think of -- I wouldn't think it would be hard to find such folks in SF. Then, you would be eating healthy and not have to think about food at all.

If that doesn't work financially, just let the food thing go for awhile and focus on getting yourself thorough the grief, etc. If you don't know of any labyrinths in your area, use the World-Wide Labyrinth Locator at http://labyrinthlocator.com/ to find one.

If you can't think that far, get on a plane to Philly and you can use the one we built. :-D


I kept my weight off for three years after my gastric bypass in 04. Then I crashed into a depression and the pounds started piling on.

They haven't stopped. I have to get off this merry go round before I am back where I started. Food has always been a drug for me. It's entertainment, it's comfort, it's a high, it's social activity. I don't know. If you find an answer, tell me.


First, I think crying, sleeping, massage, crying, hanging out with Kyrie, yoga, and getting out of the house, like a nice Starbucks run, is what you need first.

Second, I think you need to change it up entirely as far as an eating plan goes.

My experience is that as our bodies continue to um ripen, how we gain and lose weight changes.


Christie, Christie --

You'll be fine, when enough time passes. Those boomerang pounds are normal enough for hormonal storms. Add the level of stress you've been under for months, and it's a wonder you're walkin' around, Girl; at any weight.

Have you ever, in your life, suffered this amount of stress, for this long? Yeah, that's what I thought. At the beginning of the level of physical change you're undergoing just makes it harder.

You'll be fine, you'll get through this; you'll know who you are again and how to be in the world. And even how to laugh and have fun. Trust me.

In the meantime, one practical suggestion: Take 3 - 5 mg. of melatonin daily. No, not to help you sleep; to help you balance hormonally.

Big Motherly Hugs from your much older friend.

Susan Fox

Whatever is going on, whatever you eat or don't eat, you're perfect just as you are.

Gina Spadafori

Wish I had the answer, but know I'm thinking of you.

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