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22 March 2006

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Leigh-Ann

I haven't experienced the "loss of weight loss", as I've been lucky enough to have only ever needed to drop 20 or 30 pounds. As I get older, though, the weight sure seems to creep up more insidiously. I'm sure I'm near the point where I need to lose 30 or 40 lbs. instead, and I know it will be slow-going.

Having "dieted" a few times (usually Weight Watchers), I am familiar with the agony of "hitting a plateau". Depending on your personality and mindset, my solution may not be appropriate for you, but my partner and I were both able to get off the plateau by just eating anything we wanted for three or four days. We would eat pizza and burgers and have chocolate and eat bowls of sugary cereal -- we wouldn't deliberately "over-eat", but we would eat things normally off-limits, or only edible in tiny portions. After three or four days of eating like that, we'd go back on our diet plan, and the weight would start to drop again.

As I said, this method isn't for everyone, especially if willpower is an issue. It worked for us, though, because we were relieved to have our diet food back (we actually like Weight Watchers), and to be truthful, eating all that crap made us feel a little nauseous. It was enough to trick out bodies into thinking the famine was over, though, so it might be a solution for someone else.

Christie Keith

Actually, I wasn't complaining about slow weight loss. I think that slow weight loss is healthy and beneficial, and serves to help us cope with the emotional and other often-unacknowledged downsides of losing weight.

I also admit to feeling somewhat horrified at your solution to your plateaus, LOL... I don't eat junk food or sugar, and didn't even when I was not trying to lose weight. That stuff is pure poison. I AM the holistic queen, remember. ;)

I'd also add that having to drop 20 pounds for whatever reason, be it to feel a bit better or look a bit better, is nothing at all like losing 100 or 200 pounds ... not the experience of it, and not the idea of it. I don't even accept the existence of being "twenty pounds overweight." That's a phrase that actually doesn't even make sense to me. To me, wanting to lose 20 pounds is sort of like thinking you'd look better with highlights.

I realize that is dismissive of the reality of some women's lives, and I'm sorry for that. I'm just being brutally honest.

June

EXCELLENT article, Christie!! You are so right, there is a lot more mental and emotional stuff to get through than most people realize. Back in the 80s when I lost over 100# for the first time, people couldn't understand my feelings and there was no one to talk to that had been through it (no internet back then). They thought it should be all happy, happy, joy, joy time. Hell, I had lost 123# and looked 'normal' for the first time as an adult. It should be all peaches and cream, right? WRONG!!!

There was a whole new world I had to get used to and a whole lot of circumstances I wasn't really ready for. It was a hell of an adjustment let me tell you and a lot of it left me confused and even ANGRY. I always knew thin people got treated better but, getting smacked in the face with it every day was a whole 'nother ballgame.

Plus, I had always been 'the fat girl' so, who was I now? I didn't even know how to relate to my own body, let alone having to deal with how other people wanted to relate to it. I can remember vividly, being out at a dance club and having a song come on that I really liked and getting up to dance. Well, it was like I was trying to move someone else's body or I forgot how to dance or I don't know what. I had no rhythm as an average sized woman and why should I? I learned how to move in a big body. It took time to adjust. And I guess eventually I just retreated to what was familiar or couldn't keep up with that lifestyle any longer (Weight Watchers just isn't for me. I proved that over 30 yrs. of trying!).

Anyway, you're right, the second hundred is slow and hard and unless you've been there, you just don't have a clue what it's all about.

June

Leigh-Ann

Sorry, I thought you were talking about "plateau-ing" when you wrote, "As you get closer and closer to your goal weight, the weight comes off slower and slower." That's what I meant about plateau. And I have to confess I didn't know you were holistic everything for *you*, I thought it was mostly something you applied to your pets, so I didn't mean to offend when I suggested eating pizza or Twinkies or whatever.

As for being "twenty pounds overweight", it is a reality for me, and has been many times. I have a nice "set weight" that my body feels comfortable at, but as soon as I get above it, I have terrible problems with my feet and my knees, and pain which requires prescription medication and medical treatment. I'm quite short, so 20 lbs. represents a lot of weight on my frame, and it causes a lot of problems for *me*.

So, I apologize if I offended you... I didn't mean to "not have a clue", and I'll refrain from commenting on weight issues in the future.

Cate

I'm just starting on my first 100 pounds and you are an inspiration.
Cate

Maud

It's always difficult, and scary, to have to change your sense of who you are, both internally and in relation to the outside world, whether it's imposed on you by something that happens to you over which you have no control, or as a result of something that you actively chose to undertake. That's why people frequently put so much energy into avoiding it, even at great cost to themselves and others. So congratulations on exercising both the patience and the courage needed to pursue it.

M Flynn

>>I realize that is dismissive of the reality of some women's lives, and I'm sorry for that. I'm just being brutally honest.<<

Christie, it'll probably look different when you're within 20 lbs of your final goal. For those of us who are nearing target weight, those last few pounds are still important and they can be extremely difficult to shed.

As for the progress you have made, You are insprirational! GO! GO! GO!

M Flynn

I'm posting to disagree with my own smug and dismissive previous post! You're obviously correct that there's no rational way to compare the process of losing 200 lbs to the process of losing 20. I guess this is an example of how a person's self-hatred, somehow tied up in body image, can be far out of proportion to (and most likely barely related to) the physical problem. Maybe this is the road that leads some to anorexia.

Pete

Christie.. You are AWESOME ..
Pete ( aawol )

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